I have a hunch that you have already made your decision
I noticed when it was time to discuss your situation you went and gazed out the window
I get the perception that you wanted to tell you exactly what I would do and because I didn??™t your now uninterested.
Is there something you want to share with me
Although you??™re not saying anything your eyes are saying different
Do you need a moment to collect your thoughts to share with me what??™s going on in your mind
I detect frustration when I??™m explaining the process you have to go through
Have you heard this before
Do you need to stop and regroup
Usefulness of examining the moment is gaining greater understanding of dynamics, of highlighting a repeating dynamic of working through tensions of feelings apparent at the moment in the interview. It can also be useful when something unexpected happens.
The complications could be if a clinician shares reactions with direct feedback, or if the clinician focuses on their own feelings and reactions. Clinicians must carefully monitor his or her responses.
The only two examples that come to mind are police officers. I feel that some misuse their power all together. Circumstances are when a cop has a quota to meet at the end of the month. In some cases a person may not have committed a traffic violation, but because he or she is the police you have to abide by them and pull over. The effects are a ticket or worse you can become so irritated that you are arrested for being uncooperative.
When out to eat because he or she is a cop, whether uniformed or not their meal is provided for them for free. I??™ve never understood this concept, its one thing to be doing security or patrolling for the eatery, but to just expect free food is beyond me. There are not really any effects, but I will say that maybe for every 2 meals they get free he or she could feed the homeless.
Client: Are you in a relationship
Client: Have you ever been in an abusive relationship
Me: Not physical, but in the past a relationship has emotionally drained me before
Client: Are you a lesbian:
Client: How does your family feel about your lifestyle
Me: They are cool with it
Client: How was your childhood
Me: It was good. I??™m an only child so I got my way on a lot of things
I feel interrogated. It will probably feel different if I offered this information instead of directly being asked. In normal circumstances I wouldn??™t have answered any of these questions. My client would just have to feel rejected. I think I??™m there to assist them in their situations not for them to know mine. I would let them ask whatever and after they are finished I would want to know where the line of questioning was going.
Even me being gay I still say you have to abide by the rules of the school. When taking the job you pretty much agreed to all the rules and regulations that come along with the job. Being a counselor and marching in ???pride??? means defying the rules which mean setting a poor example for students who may be mirroring you.
I would encourage her to reconsider what she??™s doing. Cheating the government could create all kinds of problems. Her lying could result in being arrested for fraud, which she could lose her job. Also her actions could have her kids taken away from her, being in jail with no one to watch them, or no financially stability could land them in state custody. I would have to inform her that I have to put that income down, if I don??™t I could lose my job.
Would be nothing I could do??¦maybe offer them other resources that they can afford, I suppose.
It is important that a client and clinician discuss the process in a relationship and learn to resolve interactional problems when they arise. Its also important that clinician??™s set limits with clients such as time, topics of conversation, privacy of the clinician, and sexual behaviors in order to maintain clear and comfortable boundaries in the relationship.